Ben Wills

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The Value of Doing Nothing

In some way, shape, or form, I’ve studied “productivity” since reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People in middle school. Just a couple years ago, I was drinking no less than 12 shots of espresso every day. It helped me get more work done. Faster. I could stay up later to do more work, and I could wake up...

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A Paradox: Ambition and Non-Attachment

To live well in the spiritual realm, eliminate desire. To live well in the human realm, cultivate desire for good. Another way of saying this is that a spiritual axiom is to “be in the present” or “be here now.” But having a desire for good is to recognize “the discord between what is now, and what could be in...

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Good Product Design

I might be inclined to say that “good product design” is when five things easily fall into place because of the design: Publishers want to write about it. (Marketing) Significant value is easily assessed by the consumer. (Sales) Post purchase, consumers feel they got a great deal. (Retention) The margin is fair for the producing company. (Profit) It has superior...

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Why and How I’m Beginning Women’s Coaching Work

I originally posted this here, on my new business website, FullFeminine.com. As BenWills.com is where most people know my writing, I wanted to point you there as I’ll be writing over there as well. I’m also very excited to be doing this work. If you have any questions, let me know. Somewhere along the way, something changed. I’ve spent most...

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2012 Personal Recap

I might summarize 2012 to myself as entering into the “dark night of the soul.” It was a really challenging year for me and the first majorly challenging year I’ve had since 2006 (I’ve been very lucky). It was the kind of challenging that, as I’m coming out from the other end of it, it was completely worth putting myself...

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Exactly How I Gained 10 Pounds of Muscle in Only Four Weeks

I’ve never been described as “big” or “muscular” or whatever it is the kids these days call that. Even during the 8+ years of hockey I played, I was still pretty small. In fact, in high school, I couldn’t even bench press the 45lb bar. One of my uncles has never lifted a weight in his life and is huge…he’s...

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Quick Thought: Engineering Breakdowns, The Practiced Art of Self-Actualization

There is one significant correlation I find among those I view as being the most highly evolved, self-actualized people I know: They become so dissatisfied with their living, they engineer significant breakdowns to become someone new. And the thing about these people is that this “engineering of breakdowns” has become an art to them. They place themselves into situations that...

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“I want to be one of those guys.”

One video I can come back to over and over and over is a piece from HBO called “Talking Funny.” In it, Ricky Gervais semi-moderates a conversation between Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock and Louis CK. Most conversations among masters in nearly any field can draw my attention. For a number of reasons, comedy draws me in even more. There are...

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The Single-Greatest Productivity Secret: Make it Inevitable

I informally accepted a commitment today: Some time in February, I will be leading a three hour workshop on femininity, attraction and relationships for dozens of women here in Boulder. I’ll be organizing everything…handouts, concepts, principles, practices, coordinating others to be involved, etc. As excited and grateful as I am for the opportunity, I’m also nervous as all hell. This...

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The Despair of Obsolescence in Personal Growth

Right now, I am frustrated. And cynical. These days happen a couplefew times a year. Often, like today, one will come between Thanksgiving and Christmas…that fallow time that comes in those quiet moments of past reflection and future planning. Most are small. Some, like tonight, serve something much larger. Not everything goes well during the year prior and, sometimes, that...

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Founder, Ontolo SEO Tools.

It appears that I like: climbing rocks and mountains, Type-3 fun in the snow, Texas, BBQ, road tripping, cooking (sauces and grilling), bluegrass and folk, blue jeans, boots, white t-shirts, scotch and cigars.

Loving Boulder, CO.
I might never leave.

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